When It No Longer Serves You, It’s Time to Move On

While clarifying the primary purpose of SAGE, it was important to dissect the raw components of learning into a practical, immediately applicable art so learners could receive a direct understanding and benefit.

Realization: We are the student, teacher and world classroom. Within our very being is the university to self-educate from.

We work hard daily to acquire things to represent who we are and what we do. The education industry seems fond of this dependence method. There’s a problem within the industry that holds the teacher-learner in a relationship of own-need. The teacher has something that the student needs, and the teacher remains an owner while the student continues to need. In this cycle, the student’s consciousness never leaves dependency. Rather than evolve into a state of empowerment and independence, the learner is kept within the (spiritual/mental/emotional) confined walls to never gain a feeling of personal agency. If the owner was a history teacher in high school, the owner becomes the history professor in college. After college, the owner becomes the company boss or the doctor or the social service counselor. The cycle of need never ends because youth conditioning told you that you will always be in a position of need.

There may be times when you’ve sat in a classroom, lecture or read a blog (perhaps like this one) or part of an article and realized you had enough. Not that you were purposely feeling disrespectful or disinterested; you simply tasted enough of what the owner wanted to share. You felt “full” in your understanding and ready to move on.

To Speed Up Your Human Potential Growth Rate, You Must Know When An Experience No Longer Serves You

When something no longer serves you, it doesn’t automatically mean that thing is poor, negative or poisonous. It just means you’ve reached a level of awareness and capability that no longer requires the level you’re currently on.

Example:

If you’ve been working in the same position for 2 years at your company and the culture isn’t growth-focused, it’s likely you’ve excelled beyond some skill sets in the job. So when you’re requested, at the behest of your supervisor, to attend a seminar on some of the basic topics within your job description, you might feel it to be remedial. If you’re truly advanced beyond those skill sets, it will be. As the seminar goes on, you might feel boredom, a need to comment on what you already understand or remain silent because of what you know. You might make fun of the instructor or ignore the suggestions and handouts. It might shock you that your peers, whose growth rate is slower, find the information to be enlightening; their journey is different from yours. This is evidence that the seminar (and likely the current job) no longer serves you.

Example:

You’ve just graduated from college, finished your bachelor’s degree and plan to begin the challenging job hunt. Meanwhile, a number of your friends want to continue partying like the good ole’ days at the dorms. They invite you out on multiple occasions and you’d love to attend, but your priorities are shifting; experiences that were previously of no importance now have some significance in your life. This change causes your desires and interests to also change. So you turn down the invitations and your friends eventually feel fed up enough to let you know about it. A disagreement erupts and you feel frustrated, torn between wanting to excel and wanting to keep your buddies around because you’ve known them for so long. You seek growth and they seek sameness. You forecast your advancement and can perceive their stagnation if they don’t change. So you explain your concerns to them one last time and the words breed new arguments. This is also evidence of an experience, in this case your friends, that no longer serves you.

As human beings, we’re very good at acknowledging the responsibilities assigned to us by others: jobs, family, relationships, friends, contracts, business, partnerships, deals, bills. But we rarely recognize that life is a world classroom designed for us to experience, learn and reach ever higher levels of growth, an unfolding of our potential to live. Life is what we’re given to utilize for our evolution. When seeing life in this way, we alter the own-need relationship, transforming it into an own-serve.

We go into experiences with intention that some lesson or milestone or experience will take place. We do not control every aspect of the experience, but we do enter it with one mindset and leave it with another. Depending on how we perceive these experiences will determine if we throw our vibrations into toxic mode or more coherent, focused energy and will. And when the experience fulfills its purpose, it provides us with what it was designed to; we are better able to remove the attachment and move on. Memory of the experience remains with us because we’ve transmuted it by understanding the lesson it gave.

There may be fear to embrace this moving on, but the fear will gradually dissipate with time as you become more skillful in recognizing the lessons in your experiences. You’ll be able to sense, intuitively, the ebb and flow of your experiences so the ending doesn’t become a sad burden to try and relive repeatedly. It becomes a seed to embrace, knowing you’re different (for the better because you’ve transformed it for your advantage) and can take your new awareness to a level, people and things that can serve you in that time.

For more info about how to transform your life experiences, pick up a copy of SAGE Mind, available on Amazon.