A prerequisite to developing a Sage Mind is the ability to transform circumstances. You can alter the way you perceive your experiences so you can make them work for you instead of feeling like a victim. Then you realize everything you experience, no matter how tragic or joyous it seems contains a tool for growth. May this audio provide you with some tools you can put to use.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nzvy7UFGrjU&index=1&list=PLbZwI7nI-IPHWVTMkIe5iLZUXiugzrVYG